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Sept 5, 2003 20:15:45 GMT -5
Post by Janus on Sept 5, 2003 20:15:45 GMT -5
Exactly, so the moral of the story is, you cannot make any one rule for anything
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Sept 5, 2003 21:19:22 GMT -5
Post by Salome on Sept 5, 2003 21:19:22 GMT -5
not exactly true, but in this case, i agree
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Sept 5, 2003 21:59:39 GMT -5
Post by Antid on Sept 5, 2003 21:59:39 GMT -5
Exactly, so the moral of the story is, you cannot make any one rule for anything Bravo. (Applause)
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Sept 5, 2003 22:01:13 GMT -5
Post by caffine10x on Sept 5, 2003 22:01:13 GMT -5
All I can say is.........HAVE FUN!!!!! ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
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Sept 10, 2003 16:19:02 GMT -5
Post by Blues on Sept 10, 2003 16:19:02 GMT -5
I prefer to judge by the circumstances ;D Agreed. ;D Sorry I'm late in replying.
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Sept 13, 2003 2:15:17 GMT -5
Post by Devastatingly Yours on Sept 13, 2003 2:15:17 GMT -5
*makes mental note NOT to seduce Alexei*
*laughs*
Well, it's not to say that I have had a terrible amount of experience in that area, as really I haven't at all. I see absolutely nothing wrong in sex between to people who love and trust eachother. However, I have come across QUITE a few people with problem relationships that they couldn't get out of because they had sex with their partner(s) throughout there relationship and early on in their relationship. Sex as a teenager, however good it may feel, is Not a good idea. Truly, sex does warp peoples emotions, their perceptions. I find that people often assumed that their partner would stay with them, because they had shared so much. But that is wrong at this age. Highschool relationships rarely ever last more than a few years. True, there are the exceptions, but those are a minority.
Again, this is not to say that some people can not do all of this and pull it off. It's really a matter of judgement. Personal, and shared with the person you intend to make love to. There's that phrase. Make love. In a way, doesn't it do that? People have often been fooled into believing that they loved the person they were having sex with, only to find that the relationship was mostly a physical thing. If you are going to have sex, for the gods sake, use protection! Spare children the pain of growing up in poverty, and perhaps in a single parent enviroment. And do not think that a condom will take care of everything. Girls, use birth control. You know it, all of you have been through health. Just my opinion, again.
The marriage thing...now that is difficult. I do not know how realistic it is to say that you should wait until marriage to have sex, simply because so many marriages end in divorce. That is a sad, sad fact. What worse a case than to live out years of your life with someone, and then end it or have it ended in divorce? There are also people, like myself, who either can not imagine themselves married or can not imagine finding someone willing to marry them. Some people just don't Want marriage. Those people have the responsibilty for their own actions, just as those who do get married do.
Also, define what you consider to be virginity. By most standards, I wouldn't be considered to be a virgin. Then again...I am not sure one can call being raped losing ones virginity. Lovely little fact of life, but it Does happen.
It's amazing how many people decide that they can take advantage of someone else in that way. And it is amazing that they even want that power. But it happens, it does happen.
In those times...I sometimes wonder if it isn't better that the person have a positive experience with sex before or after...
Not to say they shouldn't wait until marriage for that experience, that is their choice and their choice alone.
Alright, I've ranted enough. Take what you want of my rantings.
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Sept 13, 2003 16:32:30 GMT -5
Post by Archagon on Sept 13, 2003 16:32:30 GMT -5
Ah, very well said, although I still wouldn't agree with lots of it. How would you KNOW when you should? How would you measure this love and trust?
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Sept 13, 2003 16:38:54 GMT -5
Post by Devastatingly Yours on Sept 13, 2003 16:38:54 GMT -5
*laughs* I would only want to know that I've known the person long enough that they have my trust. They would have had to prove it in the past, and the love, well...that isn't exactly something one can measure. Just, it's not wise to get into a sexual relationship with someone first. People can get REALLY screwed up that way.
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Sept 13, 2003 16:41:48 GMT -5
Post by Archagon on Sept 13, 2003 16:41:48 GMT -5
Well, that's what I'm saying. What if you think it's time, but it really isn't, and then everything gets screwed up?
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Sept 13, 2003 16:49:21 GMT -5
Post by Devastatingly Yours on Sept 13, 2003 16:49:21 GMT -5
See...that'd be why I would wait until I was either an adult or married... WAIT hang on just a minute...I AM an adult. See...another thing about this is, although I think that sex isn't a thing you just do, I also have a slightly less serious idea about it than you do. However, all things considered, it would be a wise idea if you waited for it until after marriage. Course, that's assuming you ever married. *shrugs* I admire your values, even the ones I do not share.
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Hero
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Sept 14, 2003 12:56:56 GMT -5
Post by Hero on Sept 14, 2003 12:56:56 GMT -5
My turn.
Going back to the "sex just happens" issue, when I first read it, my intial response was "NO IT DOESN'T!" But once I sat down and though it through, it does. Sex is an urge that we get. A part of our nature. Sex IS part of human life, of all life. If you never EVER taught a child about sex ed, they would STILL get the urges. It is an instinctive feeling that is acted out on such. Therefore, sex CAN "just happen".
Now, I have probably gotten a good amount of you pissed at me for that. But here comes the rest of my thoughts:
As humans, we have the responsibility to control these urges. And as humans, we can! And like previously mentioned, I believe the right time to let loose these urges, is when you have been with someone for enough time to KNOW that you love them, and want to be with them. That rule may not apply for people that don't want to get married, and as long as they don't fool around with someone who DOES, because the one who does thinks that the one who doesn't, does, it's alright.
And yes, sex can easily fool someone into KNOWING that they love their partner, in which case, a divorce/breakup is almost a certainty. But reality check time: You had sex, and you are human. You made a responsible decision, and you have to live by it now. That means that when you are with someone else, and grow to love them, you MUST let them know about your sexual history. Lieing about how far you have gone in the past is... hard to forgive, to me. Because lieing about it can fool the other into thinking that they are your one and only, and first. And if you have no real intents on love, and they do, it creates a huge problem.
In short, Alexi, MY answer to your question lies in the responsibility to control your urges until you KNOW that it is right. This CAN mean before marrige. But, human error is common, and if that happens, your responsibilty CONTINUES, and you MUST be honest about it.
I hope that made sense... and... good reactions ;D
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DarkJaguar
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Sept 14, 2003 17:25:12 GMT -5
Post by DarkJaguar on Sept 14, 2003 17:25:12 GMT -5
hm.....well...that is very interesting Black....we heard what I said before most likely.....I basically agree with Kes......that sex when your not an adult is not something that I would advise you to do...and that you shouldn't just have it right off the bat.....that you should get to know the person first and that you are sure they are someone you really want to share something like this with......I rarely even date guys that I don't know well.....so yea.....and alexei.....you can never be absoulutely certain about anything.....so what are you going to do? hide all of ur life and do nothing because your not certain if what your doing is right or for the best.....u have to trust your own judgement...or you wont get anywhere.....well...thats my little blurb about that.....
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Sept 14, 2003 18:59:36 GMT -5
Post by Archagon on Sept 14, 2003 18:59:36 GMT -5
Of course not. I'm just asking questions to keep this thread going!
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Sept 14, 2003 22:09:57 GMT -5
Post by Devastatingly Yours on Sept 14, 2003 22:09:57 GMT -5
fond of this thread, Alexei?
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Sept 14, 2003 22:23:36 GMT -5
Post by Archagon on Sept 14, 2003 22:23:36 GMT -5
Yes, yes, nothing like a good controversy, eh?
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